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We never had the two year old tantrums but now my little boy is heading to four we has started shouting and demanding things and when he is not getting his own way bursting into excessive tears that we can then not reason with and calm down. It has completely baffle us that this is happening now! Any thoughts?
My daughter has the same 'fits'. I've learnt to (as awful as it sounds) walk away from her. If that doesn't work. I go down to her level and just calmly wait and took to her gently until she listens to reason. The fits are getting shorter and she is starting to ask for things more or point me in the right direction, literally! Hoorah! Each child is so different so let me know how you get on and we can share more tips! Good luck x
I think how you deal with it is a very personal thing and I'm often surprised at my own behaviour when my daughter has a tantrum - I can be quite mean, meaner than I ever thoughout I would be. I admit to using bribery to calm her down. One of my colleagues once gave me an interesting piece of advice - never say "No"... if they hear you saying No then their lives will be driven by that word. Instead, always applaud the positive instead of dwelling on the negative. Personally, I've never got the hang of it.
Not sure I can help as such but here are my thoughts (coming from a teacher's point of view). Your son is old enough to understand good and 'bad' behaviour now and also the concept of rewards and punishments. What I would do is to give him a choice: either you can stop screaming etc or you can sit on the step (or whatever punishment you think is appropriate). Or sticker charts work really well too. Start with a blank sheet and give stickers as rewards each time he does something well (and keep praising all day long). When he gets enough stickers he can have a small prize. I wouldn't take stickers away though as he earned them and it can be crushing to some children to have rewards taken away. Just keep pushing the collecting stickers and if he has a tantrum tell him he can't have one now. Also ignore negative behaviour if you can and he will start to understand that good deeds get attention and praise etc. Any help? XxX